tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post8608861117949857467..comments2023-10-22T09:53:27.978-04:00Comments on Desert Year: The Orthodox Know How to Do ThisGannet Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-56983770089342742882009-02-12T23:23:00.000-05:002009-02-12T23:23:00.000-05:00We often find that ancient customs were formed by ...We often find that ancient customs were formed by wisdom and knowledge of human nature, rather than the desire to control simply for the sake of control.<BR/><BR/>As modern society has sped up, we have felt compelled to speed up everything, including the process of grieving. Now, we just say, "Grief is different for everyone. You will know when you are ready to do (fill in the blank.)" When what we really mean is, "Get over it as quickly as you can." <BR/><BR/>Not very nice, actually...lisaramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04180178322397376195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-41161809243009395762009-02-12T22:17:00.000-05:002009-02-12T22:17:00.000-05:00((GG)) you are are right. there is so much truth ...((GG)) you are are right. there is so much truth in Orthdox traditions. <BR/><BR/>and wisdom...Diane M. Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07749136181846671327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-1439866315646248392009-02-12T18:56:00.000-05:002009-02-12T18:56:00.000-05:00encasements--- like a nematode in a dry pond, wait...encasements--- like a nematode in a dry pond, waiting for the gift of rain to come back to another life. sorry, I have nematodes and rotifers on the brain.<BR/><BR/>actually, I have nematodes in my fridge at work, a million. The kind that eat fungus gnat larvae.<BR/><BR/>If M died, I would want to encase myself at Wernersville. I can imagine this.Stratozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10148600260976577216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-20148453394473029332009-02-12T18:47:00.000-05:002009-02-12T18:47:00.000-05:00I do hope that your friends and family are okay wi...I do hope that your friends and family are okay with offering you open invitations so that you can feel alright about not going to an event if you don't feel up to it or just showing up if you do. No doubt feelings change moment to moment.<BR/><BR/>But I can see where a built-in custom could relieve some of that social stress, for a spell anyhow.<BR/><BR/>MichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-8540297359036551962009-02-12T18:46:00.000-05:002009-02-12T18:46:00.000-05:00Your blog is so true and honest, and has been a so...Your blog is so true and honest, and has been a source of comfort for me--thank you, once again.<BR/><BR/>I have been mourning the death of my brother, for which the Jewish tradition allots 30 days. (I am not Orthodox, so these laws are somewhat open to interpretation for me.) Although he was very important in my life, we were not extremely close, and I didn't think I would need a long time to "deal with it," or whatever words can be use to describe the process. I was wrong--it was all completely alien territory--and I am was grateful for the rule about refraining from social events, concerts, etc. for a month, which I did. That month ends on Tues., and although I am not yet whole, I have at least been able to catch my breath thanks to the gift of solitude.<BR/><BR/>--aa.alto artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07101176587462737940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-7628751226181174392009-02-12T18:25:00.000-05:002009-02-12T18:25:00.000-05:00I agree: there is much wisdom in the orthodox mour...I agree: there is much wisdom in the orthodox mourning traditions... <BR/><BR/>Love you you (((Gannet Girl)))Magdalene6127https://www.blogger.com/profile/11036211735489393308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-38065080474572270112009-02-12T16:32:00.000-05:002009-02-12T16:32:00.000-05:00(o)(o)Mary Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970052534402740820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-35486634122868529072009-02-12T13:54:00.000-05:002009-02-12T13:54:00.000-05:00The flip side of the Orthodox rule is that at the ...The flip side of the Orthodox rule is that at the end of the year you are "expected" to resume your life in full again. In my experience, orthodoxy of any type creates unreasonable rules, regulations, and expectations. I believe that each of us has been given the tools with which to make our own choices, decisions, and rules. None more critical than how we mourn and grieve and on what timetable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-60044075695953121202009-02-12T10:43:00.000-05:002009-02-12T10:43:00.000-05:00A year of seclusion after a death used to be a soc...A year of seclusion after a death used to be a social standard, not just a religious standard. I've wished for it as well, even though I'm glad I don't have to abide by it. The isolation, while I frequently desire it and often need it, is dangerous for me at times. I think it's a shame we've given up social customes for mourning. I feel like the bereaved are thrown to the winds without ritual and tradition to guide and protect them.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-87303513781838581652009-02-12T10:00:00.000-05:002009-02-12T10:00:00.000-05:00Joan Calvin left this comment on my orginal post, ...Joan Calvin left this comment on my orginal post, which I've moved since I realized my first title could be interpreted as unintentionally offensive:<BR/><BR/>There is so much wisdom in Jewish traditions. We have much to learn. You are in my prayers. I pray that God will grant you what you need for today.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.com