tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post8350943010821765100..comments2023-10-22T09:53:27.978-04:00Comments on Desert Year: TimingGannet Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-31012527079785978952009-03-27T22:44:00.000-04:002009-03-27T22:44:00.000-04:00I think people try to give answers because they do...I think people try to give answers because they don't want to face the fact that they too may have to live with unfathomable sorrow or pain.<BR/><BR/>Hugs during this difficult time.Ruth Hull Chatlienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08797146501548509911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-10912224438555587812009-03-27T18:00:00.000-04:002009-03-27T18:00:00.000-04:00OK I'll try silence for a while. Probably the b...OK I'll try silence for a while. Probably the best choice anyway.Kathryn Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757414380685368592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-48380382149895797672009-03-27T16:40:00.000-04:002009-03-27T16:40:00.000-04:00Silence is good.Silence is good.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-56237174654464414952009-03-27T16:18:00.000-04:002009-03-27T16:18:00.000-04:00I hate the term griefwork too, I wish I had words ...I hate the term griefwork too, I wish I had words to offer, but I have none, only silence....Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759963926280667938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-32644418369928404292009-03-26T20:35:00.000-04:002009-03-26T20:35:00.000-04:00reading this and the comments, I wonder... what i...reading this and the comments, I wonder... what is wisdom? I think of 21 attributes. I think of God's reflection in a mirror. I don't know.Stratozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10148600260976577216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-36116444846603783812009-03-26T00:39:00.000-04:002009-03-26T00:39:00.000-04:00Compassion? Empathy? Perhaps.Wisdom? Not. In f...Compassion? Empathy? Perhaps.<BR/><BR/>Wisdom? Not. <BR/><BR/>In fact, grief robbed me of much of the wisdom I <I>thought</I> I had...Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-73620784433568272482009-03-25T23:07:00.000-04:002009-03-25T23:07:00.000-04:00No wisdom was gained, only innocence lost, in all ...No wisdom was gained, only innocence lost, in all that suffering.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617476463347663364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-79041713464916428402009-03-25T17:20:00.000-04:002009-03-25T17:20:00.000-04:00"No one who understands the cost would want them."..."No one who understands the cost would want them."<BR/><BR/>That's exactly what crosses my mind. <BR/><BR/>MichAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-27456779715158125452009-03-25T16:04:00.000-04:002009-03-25T16:04:00.000-04:00I wonder if it's possible for somebody who has not...I wonder if it's possible for somebody who has not experienced the grief that results from the unexpected and untimely death of someone intensely loved to be at all helpful to someone experiencing that grief. I'm too tired to fix that sentence but hopefully, it is comprehensible. <BR/><BR/>I have so often been at a complete loss to come up with any words to convey how I care for you and how often I think of you and how unimaginable your grief is to me. At one point, you blogged about how much it bothered you when somebody says "I can't imagine..." I can try. I can think about it. I can pray with you and for you. I don't think I even begin to understand despite your eloquence here.<BR/><BR/>I also recognize that there isn't any fixing it or making it better. Yet, that is what we want to do for our friends - anything, everything, and it all amounts to nothing.Kathryn Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757414380685368592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-74965347833334424122009-03-25T12:41:00.000-04:002009-03-25T12:41:00.000-04:00Do you know Nicholas Wolsterstoff's book? I think...Do you know Nicholas Wolsterstoff's book? I think it's called Requiem for a Son....<BR/><BR/>He has a powerful place where a friend quotes Scripture to the same sort of "you have grown so much" effect--something about God moving the mountain, from the Psalms, in discussing the mountain climbing death of N.W.'s son. His response is something along the lines of "What kind of repellent God would kill my son to teach *me* something?"<BR/><BR/>I have spent a lot of time being the educator too, and it is really tiring--though, for me, sometimes healing. At least in comparison to the alternative.Dr. Laura Marie Grimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10372741914558791844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-51764211580223007902009-03-25T11:37:00.000-04:002009-03-25T11:37:00.000-04:00I hate the idea that we are better people because ...I hate the idea that we are better people because of the bad things that happen to us. I am not a better person because I had cancer. I do not think I have received any good from it. There is no wisdom in suffering.<BR/>Just my humble (OK, not so humble) opinion.Joan Calvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13858394238696729686noreply@blogger.com