tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post610137640130350623..comments2023-10-22T09:53:27.978-04:00Comments on Desert Year: Five Things: LanguageGannet Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-58188389087772795572009-05-05T12:14:00.000-04:002009-05-05T12:14:00.000-04:00Would that I could put coherent thoughts on paper....Would that I could put coherent thoughts on paper. It is not one of my fortes. When I try to write my thought processes desert me and I become a jumble of emotions that overwhelm me and I have to put the pen down and go for a walk to get back to what is now my real world.<br />Your blog and some that I have found through your links continue to be a refuge and I am blessed to be able to go to them for solace.<br />Again, thank you so much.<br />AprilAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-50875082057316138842009-05-04T21:49:00.000-04:002009-05-04T21:49:00.000-04:00Anon, I have considered your thoughts, sadly, many...Anon, I have considered your thoughts, sadly, many times, as I have tried to come to terms with our new reality,and maybe I will incorporate a bit of that into the next post. I hope you will chime in.<br /><br />I am amazed by how many people with so many perspectives have responded to this entry.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-26319639900123709612009-05-04T21:47:00.000-04:002009-05-04T21:47:00.000-04:00April, I am so very sorry.
Maybe you will write a...April, I am so very sorry.<br /><br />Maybe you will write about her sometime?Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-20851886848494150962009-05-04T21:40:00.000-04:002009-05-04T21:40:00.000-04:00You might consider my perspective--which is-- that...You might consider my perspective--which is-- that suicidal thoughts are particularly incidious because they can present as the most rational and logical course to take. As I have moved away from suicidal thoughts, I have looked back in frozen fear at how sensible the thought of taking my own life once seemed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-65927996740878967632009-05-04T20:01:00.000-04:002009-05-04T20:01:00.000-04:00You continue to be a big part of my support group....You continue to be a big part of my support group. After 20 months it still seems as unreal as the morning I heard of my baby girl's death. Your words help.<br />AprilAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-74636714244490878882009-05-04T18:29:00.000-04:002009-05-04T18:29:00.000-04:00I'm not sure how I stumbled across your blog--perh...I'm not sure how I stumbled across your blog--perhaps you made a comment on someone else's blog that intrigued me. At any rate, you are eloquent in your pain and your ability to share that pain with me and your other readers. My heart goes out to you and your family in the loss of your son.<br /><br />I know something about intense loss--I've been widowed for 2 years- but I've felt that losing a child would be the ultimate loss. <br /><br />A few years ago, I received a phone call at work from my brother informing me that one of our sisters was hospitalized after attempting suicide. This was the second time but I had not known about her first attempt. Her pain was so incredibly great (and I think it might still be but she hides it well.) When her husband found her, she was angry: "I was not supposed to wake up!"<br /><br />Depression runs in our family, and there is some chemical tie-in that psychotherapy can't overcome. My sister hadn't found the right medication that would work for her. When you're in that deep well of despair, you just want the pain to end. I don't think most people (unlike Styron) who die by suicide are able to envision the wounds that are inflicted on the loved ones left behind. <br /><br />Thank you for opening up your heart and your soul.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06875495143678170111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-24274943848167400332009-05-04T17:47:00.000-04:002009-05-04T17:47:00.000-04:00Thinking of you as Mother's Day and the anniversar...Thinking of you as Mother's Day and the anniversaries approach. Know that you are held by those of us who have also lost, and by something so much bigger than all of us. Much love.Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15515520003762525659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-5097551952280334592009-05-04T15:51:00.000-04:002009-05-04T15:51:00.000-04:00All of this makes perfect sense, to me. The son of...All of this makes perfect sense, to me. The son of a friend of mine died by suicide during one summer of high school. There were no warning signs that I know of, either. How can we not view this kind of death with compassion? In the presence of such pain, what other response can there be? My heart goes out to you; may your heart be comforted, moment by moment.Gbergerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08895779471612397202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-48913472518515621342009-05-04T12:02:00.000-04:002009-05-04T12:02:00.000-04:00I have never heard or thought of this linguistic d...I have never heard or thought of this linguistic distinction....Thank you for giving me one small way to better honor and support surviving loved ones of those who have died by suicide.Dr. Laura Marie Grimeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10372741914558791844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-80088671925434643622009-05-04T10:44:00.000-04:002009-05-04T10:44:00.000-04:00The links you gave are so very good. I am copying...The links you gave are so very good. I am copying them into my file. Pray that I never had need to use it. <br /><br />(((GG)))Elaine (aka...Purple) https://www.blogger.com/profile/09439199680556347830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-59316031836236410782009-05-04T08:53:00.000-04:002009-05-04T08:53:00.000-04:00WOW! Powerful grace amidst deep hurt pours from yo...WOW! Powerful grace amidst deep hurt pours from your writing, and the emerging wisdom and continuing strength is wholly evident. Thank you for giving this 'words'. I have lost friends who have 'suicided' and I don't care for that term either. My prayer is always that we never know despair so deep and dark that that is the only answer to be rid of it. I'm so sorry for your loss, but grateful for your witness. Peace.Davidhttp://seekingservant.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-55348659378762834572009-05-04T07:15:00.000-04:002009-05-04T07:15:00.000-04:00Thank you for shedding some light, G.
MichThank you for shedding some light, G.<br /><br />MichDaisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07074990352248493598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-89307132889349926592009-05-04T00:51:00.000-04:002009-05-04T00:51:00.000-04:00....that's the way we all felt in class too...I'll.......that's the way we all felt in class too...I'll look through my notebooks...Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-6195607828788624692009-05-03T22:55:00.000-04:002009-05-03T22:55:00.000-04:00Whoa.
I hope you can find it for me, Mompriest.
...Whoa.<br /><br />I hope you can find it for me, Mompriest.<br /><br />Although at the moment it is making me feel extremely ill.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-50491757857556943752009-05-03T22:49:00.000-04:002009-05-03T22:49:00.000-04:00One of my seminary courses found us reading and di...One of my seminary courses found us reading and discussing a paper written by Karl Barth...in it he discusses the kind of pain and suffering, the darkness that leads to that tunnel vision you describe. In this paper, which might take me some time to find, Barth wonders about the grace of God...and might God's grace be such that God calls to a person in such pain? God's calls to them and they respond by going to God, leaving behind the pain and suffering even though it means taking one's life - the very gift that God gave?<br /><br />I realize this is no consolation to those of us who remain here. And it opens up all sorts of questions about God....but it also says something about the depth of God's compassion - that in these experiences that are tragic to us, there might also be a loving God who says to someone in pain...come home...come home to me...and I will hold you in my loving arms...and your pain will be no more...<br /><br />Anyway...for what it's worth...Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-42316086984129950372009-05-03T20:27:00.000-04:002009-05-03T20:27:00.000-04:00I am constantly amazed at your ability to understa...I am constantly amazed at your ability to understand and articulate the complicated thoughts and feelings around such a traumatic death.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-2351481992476257232009-05-03T11:43:00.000-04:002009-05-03T11:43:00.000-04:00Because of some past experiences that I don't need...Because of some past experiences that I don't need to go into, I believe what Rolheiser and Styron write about suicide being driven by the need to end the pain to be absolutely true. I'm glad you have a survivors' support group and that you have reached the understanding that your son's death was not directed at you or a form of willfulness on his part.<br /><br />Often I think the traditional teachings of the church on suicide have done more harm than good. I think God is far more merciful than the traditional stance allows. I only wish our society would not put such a stigma on depression.Ruth Hull Chatlienhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08797146501548509911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-90220748656134668852009-05-03T10:20:00.000-04:002009-05-03T10:20:00.000-04:00Oh, GG, I can't tell you deeply helpful this post ...Oh, GG, I can't tell you deeply helpful this post is. Thank you so much.<br /><br />KatherineKatherine E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06322364633534297714noreply@blogger.com