tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post2979275951009934178..comments2023-10-22T09:53:27.978-04:00Comments on Desert Year: Playing By The NumbersGannet Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-31767413465014499272009-12-03T22:54:41.646-05:002009-12-03T22:54:41.646-05:00I have been thinking about this recently. I have m...I have been thinking about this recently. I have more energy now than I did in year one or two, but it can still desert me without warning. And I am more engaged in life around me than I was then, but it's not the same engagement that I felt before Katie was sick and passed away. <br /><br />I recall watching a DVD from www.griefhaven.org, of parents who had more years under their belts, and were not in the first or second year of their tragedy. They looked like the couple you described here. I might look like them sometimes, too...but scratch the surface, and the tears and longing are right there.<br /><br />I sure hope I haven't said "I can't imagine" to you.Gbergerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08895779471612397202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-14729927682771742082009-11-30T12:05:03.803-05:002009-11-30T12:05:03.803-05:00we're never alright..we just grow accustomedwe're never alright..we just grow accustomedHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12807193574571427002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-83473302338262373822009-11-29T22:45:00.031-05:002009-11-29T22:45:00.031-05:00I like your rating scale. It's helpful. I am ...I like your rating scale. It's helpful. I am only sorry that it goes so very low, and that you feel every step down it's decline. These holidays are in the double digit zone sliding toward the bottom of the scale. Praying that you will have arms of love surrounding you and holding you up.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519140951660677172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-82098526595207780682009-11-29T18:19:18.398-05:002009-11-29T18:19:18.398-05:00Appearances can be such a shield of protection... ...Appearances can be such a shield of protection... for ourselves and for others. Thinking of you as the Sundays approach.Galnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-20170078548741419602009-11-29T09:54:30.657-05:002009-11-29T09:54:30.657-05:00Not that what I share will be helpful at all...but...Not that what I share will be helpful at all...but .... I saw a woman I had worked with a long time after I stopped working with her and a fairly long time (2-3-4 years) after I had heard that her son had committed suicide at school.... She was shopping with her husband...she looked good and "normal." I expressed my sorrow...and asked her how she was doing...insensitively asking, mind you... (I was young...this incident occurred probably 20 years ago now...as if this is an excuse for my stupidity....) I must have asked "Are you adjusting...? " or something equally gauche... And she looked me straight in the eye and said, "Giggles. You never get over it." <br /><br />I've not seen her since then...but her words pierced my soul and sent through me a searing hurt that I will never get over.giggleshttp://witsandwiggles.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7516914894527254464.post-88862034890626067542009-11-28T23:13:47.779-05:002009-11-28T23:13:47.779-05:00This is such a helpful reminder-- both to those of...This is such a helpful reminder-- both to those of us who are pastors, and just to any of us who hope to be sensitive generally.<br /><br />People are not necessarily as all right as they appear. <br /><br />(((GG)))Magdalene6127https://www.blogger.com/profile/11036211735489393308noreply@blogger.com